Problems with trying to be positive about everything

I’m seeing a lot of Positivity going around at the moment, much of which is benign ‘seeing the good in the world’ stuff, but with the occasional pathological form.

There is a segment of the internet that seems to push ‘looking on the bright side’ to the point of being unwilling to acknowledge that silver linings aren’t always as good as the original Plan A, or that sometimes we have to do things not because we want to but because we have to. Things like bad jobs that pay the rent come to mind, though that’s thankfully not something I have to deal with at the moment. It should be completely fine to dislike some parts of life, or to feel like the good things don’t outweigh the bad (especially true of the good relationship vs. bad/no job equation for women), but the cult of happy isn’t always ok with that.

This is also a problem with health issues, even life threatening ones – people dealing with cancer should not have to look at it as some form of blessing is disguise, for example, yet somehow there is pressure from some quarters to do so.


That’s my ramble on that for now…


More crafting ‘help’

Pattern drafting is one of my least favourite parts of dressmaking (I am so glad that the major project I’m currently working on uses print-at-home, even if I did have to scale it from a 300×300 .jpg).

My ‘assistant’ has different feelings about it, however

craft_help2  craft_help

she also enjoys chasing around toiles, hiding under my dress form, lace, and organza (more than me, most days).



Why I don’t participate in April Fool’s day

So it’s nearly April again, which means we’ve got another April Fool’s day coming up to endure/enjoy. There are some very well done ones out there, mainly those done in the spirit of confusion/fun without any malicious intent (xkcd‘s Umlat comes to mind).

However, the last few years I’ve become increasingly fed up with the way *some* people treat the day; as an excuse to be mean/cruel/inappropriate and then turn on anyone who gets offended and denigrate them for ‘not getting the joke’ (thereby avoiding having to think about the problematic nature of their humour). Alternatively, there are the ones that are really obvious, but which the perpetrator thinks are *so clever* and get unbearably smug about (the ones that work too well aren’t great either).

This is why I just stay out of the whole thing, while resisting any attempts to allow myself to be gaslighted into thinking I’m the crazy one over the whole thing.


A cute picture to offset the seriousness of this post

A cute picture to offset the seriousness of this post